This is probably a common question. I've been married to my wife for 8 years, been together for 12. The last few years we've only had sex 2 or 3 times a month. So to spice things up we got a toy. Things started to get better, then went back to the old ways. So I started checking up on the toy and noticed she uses it almost everyday. But we only have sex 2 or 3 times still. When i ask about it she blushes then gets mad. I feel like I don't please her anymore. Whats the deal!?
Well, you can start by asking your wife what you could do in bed to make her happier. Ask about her fantasies, ask about what turns her on, etc. Try to improve in every-day life too - buy her some flowers every now and then, tell her compliments, help her around the house, take her out for dinner, movies or just for a romantic walk through a local park or what not.